The biggest problem about dating a widower is that you have to be sure that he is ready to fall in love again. Although it seems easy, it is actually rather tricky. Many widowers say that they are done with grieving and ready to move on but after a while you figure out that you are in a relationship with a completely emotionally unavailable person. If you notice some of these things in his behavior, it may be time to move on.
Everything revolves around sex
You slept together on your second date and the sex was mind-blowing, so he is surely over his late wife. Right? Well, not really. A lot of widowers try to forget about their pain by jumping into bed with a lot of women. If you are having a lot of sex but you barely know anything about him and he hates talking about himself, he is just using you to take his mind off of painful memories.
He is too charming
Look out for the widower who is quick to flatter you without even really knowing you. It might all be a well-rehearsed act he came up with in order to mask his real emotions.
He says that he is not ready to be in a relationship
The problem with women is that when they hear that a guy is not ready for a relationship, they immediately think they can change his mind. Sorry, but you can’t. We understand that there is something incredibly seductive about trying to be the one who turned him around and made him fall in love again, but you will probably just end up wasting your time. So, the next time someone tells you that they are not ready, believe them.
Everything revolves around him
Your emotions are not important, everything is about him and his wants and needs. He doesn’t consult you when he is making plans and won’t modify his routine in any way. Face it, he is just using you to make time go by faster and doesn’t really see his future with you. If you are not looking for anything serious, this arrangement might suit you actually. If not, it is time to move on.